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THE HEALING PROCESS & BEING A SENSITIVE



The title really should include everyone who goes through healing, but Sensitives are not the general population. Some would say that Sensitives were created by trauma but that is only partly true. We were sensitive prior to trauma, the trauma either forced us to expanded our abilities out of survival or we completely blocked them.


Each person has their own unique path with healing, there is no wrong way as long as it is beneficial with respect and understanding. As an empath I am growing more everyday especially after doing a good portion of my healing, I read a lot of psychology books and had counseling that specializes in adoption and parenting. This helps release the guilt and shame that was inflicted as a child that was carried with me into adulthood.


In my instance, I had a mother who was considered a very nice lady…and she was. After my dad passed away, she was the sole griever in the family, I never had the opportunity or the support to deal with my own grief. With my mother there was no emotional intimacy, I did not feel I could come to her with anything, especially emotions. There was an emotional loneliness, she was so preoccupied with her own pain she didn’t notice any of my inner experiences. She had no emotional awareness of how her stunted emotional maturity affected me.


I grew up very quickly after dad passed away and in other ways I didn’t want to grow up. I had the emotional baggage of my mother that I had to deal with. Once I became a teenager, I felt trapped in taking care of my parent so when it came to romantic relationships, they would end up being one night stands that way I would not have the emotional responsibility of someone else’s feelings. In some cases, I became so invested in the relationship I became needy because for the first time I felt such a deep connection, and I didn’t have that in my childhood.


I could hardly wait to become an adult to get away and have freedom. I didn’t want responsibility, I just wanted to go out and party. Even then I put everyone else’s needs before mine…and I was good and taking care of my friends. Not all friendships were good ones either.


I have done A LOT of therapy and healing. I am doing better and feeling stronger BUT that does not mean I can tolerate discussions about my mother. I know there are triggers which means there is more shadow to heal. So, when people start a sentence like “Your mother did the best she could” or “Do you remember when this happened” ? If someone is dealing with healing issues from an emotionally immature parent this is not helpful, in fact it is damaging to their healing process. You can’t simply “remind or create” a good memory to replace the negative one because it’s uncomfortable for you. You cannot reminisce because the memories are overshadowed by the trauma we experienced.


No one has the right to tell someone the time limit in their healing process, it takes as long as it takes. Most of all if you really want to understand you need to do some research and educate yourself with the emotional damage that was caused. I will suggest some books to read at the end of the blog.



Each person has their own unique path with healing, there is no wrong way as long as it is beneficial with respect and understanding. As an empath I am growing more everyday especially after doing a good portion of my healing, I read a lot of psychology books and had counseling that specializes in adoption and parenting. This helps release the guilt and shame that was inflicted as a child that was carried with me into adulthood.


The most important aspect of healing is boundaries. As I move forward in my healing there will be more boundaries being set with family, friends, and acquaintances. I spent all of my life stuffing down and caring for others emotional well-being, now I am learning how to care for my own.


Empaths need boundaries to protect their energy not just on the emotional/physical level but more importantly on the spiritual level. Some of my empathic gifts have people drawn to me that tell me their whole life story and this has happened to me since I was young. They feel safe and absorb my energy to lift them up or clear them of the heaviness. I still need to do more work around that. Ultimately, this ends up with me receiving attachments. Attachments can range from lost and confused souls to very dark and dangerous entities. This caused many serious health issues at one point, but I am becoming stronger and more whole with each step of healing I take.


The way I stay strong and become more whole means a variety of self-care methods. These are just a few.


Protect your energy:

  • Setting boundaries and stopping conversations that affect your healing process

  • Sometimes you may need a break from people who do not respect your boundaries

  • Have people who relate, understand, and support your healing. (They have educated knowledge by reading and making the effort, not just hearing you)

  • Spending quiet time alone in nature & connect to the earth

  • Cord cutting

  • Clearing your energy and your home’s energy regularly

  • Meditative methods that calm you and bring your piece

  • Energy exercises that raise your vibration.

  • Learn more about Sensitives, Empaths, and other abilities (What resonates with you)

  • Find your passion & purpose

  • Do your healing work (Preferably with supportive counseling if necessary)

  • Find the right healers to assist you and know when its time to move on and find other methods

What some may not realize is that sometime when we feel sad or become depressed it can be accumulated from other people’s energy that we take on. It can also be passed down, inherited, or come from your ancestral lineage. This is why learning clearing and protective techniques are so important. There are more methods and processes that we need to do. We need to connect to our innate knowledge, abilities and especially our intuition so we can learn, grow, and wield our own power.


It takes time and courage to face our shadow, its not pretty, its not easy…but its so worth it…because you are worth it.


I’ve experienced being a Sensitive for over 50 years and have been a guide and teacher for empaths and gifted people for 18 years. I am certified as a Youth Worker, group facilitator/life skills coach, peer group counselor, and in Hypnosis. I work with Norse Shamanic methods, and I have been a Reiki Master for 16 years. I offer hypnojourneying and hypnosis in my workshops to help with healing, letting go and feeling confident. If you want to understand and learn more about Sensitives/Empaths and other abilities join my upcoming workshop “The Shining Ones”.


See details on my website

Sharonwhitethunderhypnotherapy.com


Recommended books:

Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel, LPC NCC CSAT

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD

Hidden Cost of Stress by Gabor Mate, Dr. Physician, Author & Speaker

The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier, M.A. Masters in Clinical psychology.

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